How to become a vicar

I wrote this as an e-mail for the people at work when I was first going through the discernment process, and some of them found it a really helpful explanation of the steps to becoming the Rev. That was a couple of years ago, but it still basically holds true and relates to the Church of England.

There are three stages to pursuing your dream of wearing a cassock and dog collar.

Discernment
Training and
Curacy (although technically you get your dog collar and cassock after the training stage)

Discernment
Unfortunately, it is not possible simply to speak to your vicar and say “I really think the Lord might be saying I should be a vicar” and that’s that, although that would be the place to start. If your vicar agrees that the Lord might be saying you should join the ranks s/he will start you on the discernment process. What happens next varies from diocese to diocese, but essentially is a process of trying to hear from God and making sure that this is what he wants!

Typically, you have to meet with the Diocesan Director of Ordinands (no wonder everyone calls them the ‘DDO’) who is paid to listen to you and God and work out whether it’s right that you are called to ordained ministry. Usually you will be sent to see someone else too, usually not a vicar. In St Albans, for example, they like to make this person someone who is trained in psychotherapy, in Peterborough Dioecese a lay person who has experience of testing vocation. This is to get the perspective of someone who isn’t ordained on the process of listening to God.

Once the DDO is satisfied, they will send you to see the Bishop. The Bishop will chat to you for a while (usually not more than an hour, bishops are busy people!) and have read a report about you by the DDO. It is up to the Bishop to make the final decision as to whether you should be allowed to train for Revdom. If they think you are a likely candidate, they will send you to a Bishop’s Advisory Panel which is a 3 day event where you have 3 interviews, a group exercise and a pastoral letter to write amongst other things. The Bishop’s Advisory Panel then advise the bishop (strangely enough) as to whether you should be trained for a life of vicarage.

The Bishop then decides. He can accept the panel’s advice, or he can ignore it, it’s his choice. If he says yes, you will then start training. From the first conversation with your vicar to this point can (exceptionally) be a few months, is most often at least a year and in St Albans diocese they like to really really know you want to be a vicar, so the process usually takes around 2 years (although they have a new DDO now, who may do things differently).

Training
Training takes either 2 or 3 years, depending on your age and whether you have done any formal academic theology in the past. As a rough guide, if you are 32 or older, or you have a degree in theology already you will do 2 years, otherwise it’s 3. Usually, training takes place at a Theological College (the Church of England does not call them bible colleges!), and is full time. It is possible to do the training part time, but if you’re training to be a full time vicar, it has always seemed sensible to me to do the training full time.

Curacy
Once you have graduated Theological College or Course you will spend four years doing ‘on the job training’ as a ‘Curate’. Your dream of vicardom is close at hand. At the start of the first year you will be ordained by a Bishop in a Cathedral as a ‘deacon’, which allows you to take services, funerals and baptise people.  Technically at this point you can marry people (conduct the service, not get married to them) although this is not generally encouraged).  After you’ve completed your first year you’ll be ordained a second time, but as a ‘priest’ which means you can absolve people of their sins, take a service of holy communion and bless people and things.  Then after the four years is up you can apply for a job running a church of your own!

So, from first thoughts to full on ‘Hi, My name’s Dave and I’m the vicar’ takes around 8 years, it’s not an easy process, but as someone who is now serving as a curate, it’s totally worth it!

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  1. James Ogley’s avatar

    Deacons can indeed marry people legally as all Clerks in Holy Orders of the Anglican variety are functionally registrars – but only in the locations where they are licensed to carry out any other service. The knotty bit comes in that one has to be ordained Elder to be able to bless any group of people that does not include yourself (Really? What planet are we on?) so it’s the blessing of the marriage that’s problematic for your average jobbing deacon.

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    1. luke seelig’s avatar

      I’m only 13 nearly fortine but all my life i wanted to be an officer in the army untill a week ago when I was reading the bible I new i would not be able to justify killing another human being and disided strait away like clicking your fingers I wanted to serve god and become a vicer i’m very good at R.E, Math and english but i’m afraid i’m not good enough at english or math to go to univesity and to be honest my family can’t afford to send me . Would I have to go to univesity to become a vicar?

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      1. sanctified’s avatar

        Hi Luke,
        If you want to become a vicar, the first thing you need to do is talk to the one at your local church. It’s very rare that you can be ordained before you are 23, so there’s some time for you yet!
        Essentially, you will go to University for your training, but the Church of England will pay if they can see that God is calling you to do it.

        D

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      2. Sue Butler’s avatar

        Wow Luke I hope that you are still thinking that maybe God might be calling you. I will pray for you. I too am a curate and when I was about your age I also wondered whether God was calling me. It took years I if d out and I did do other jones, but I really am the most happy and contented I have ever been now I ‘finally answered the call to become a vicar’.

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        1. Sue Butler’s avatar

          Oops I meant I did do other jobs first sorry

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        2. Sitzen Erleuchte’s avatar

          Thanks for this Dave, it’s very useful. If you have more memories of your process I’d be glad to read them. Alternatively, if you have any gems of discernment wisdom, please comment on my vocation discernment blog at https://erleuchte.wordpress.com/

          Sitzen

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        3. Frank Dickin’s avatar

          Can priests marry?

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          1. sanctified’s avatar

            In a word, yes! Hurrah for the Church of England.

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          2. jackie Moss’s avatar

            Thanks so much for this info. I have been kinda wondering. Its weird as I honestly think this may be a route I go down but I am really getting on a bit and maybe a bit too late in my life….. and too many responsibilities (kids and bills!!) So… however if I studied theology seperately it could shorten my training? ( I am WAY past 32). every day I feel a GREATER pull towards the church…. dont know what to do.

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          3. Katie McG’s avatar

            Thanks for this, it’s something I’m seriously considering but want to make sure that it is my calling, at least this is a clear outline as to the process should this be the way God guides me.

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          4. Keith Montrose’s avatar

            Hi ,
            im fifty years of age,am i at the wrong end of the scale to become a vicar ?

            Kind Regards
            Keith .

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            1. sanctified’s avatar

              Hi Keith,

              The Church has to abide by equality legislation (on the whole – we won’t start a debate about women bishops here) which means you can train at 50. The important thing is discerning the call of God. If you think God is calling you to do it, get going!

              D

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              1. keith’s avatar

                Thankyou very much .

                Kind Regards
                Keith

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              2. Gilly B’s avatar

                Hi
                I am 60 and a palliative care nurse(Hospice)-I would like to be a pastor/chaplain and would certainly want to be able to bless people in my ministry-
                where do I train for that ?
                any suggestions?
                thanks for a helpful site
                Bless you
                Gilly

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                1. sanctified’s avatar

                  Hi Gilly,

                  You can be a chaplain without being ordained, although within the Church of England you aren’t supposed to ‘bless’ people in a formal sense unless you are a priest.

                  As always, the first step is to talk it over with your parish priest. If there is a sense that this is something that God is working through, s/he will refer you to a DDO who will be able to give the best advice…

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                2. Raymond’s avatar

                  I am 58, have published a spiritual book and feel I may have a calling. My supposed problem is that I am gay and in a single partnership for 4 years. I know I have something to offer. Am I a lost cause?

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                  1. sanctified’s avatar

                    Hi Raymond,

                    There is certainly some controversy around the issue of sexual ethics in the Church of England. At the moment, the position is that all who are ordained must agree to abide by the provisions of the book “Issues in Human Sexuality”. Before you think about what to do next, it would be helpful to get a copy and think about whether you can live within what it says. (Which is essentially that gay relationships should be celibate).

                    When you are ordained you pledge obedience to the bishop and that includes abiding by Issues in Human Sexuality whether you agree completely with it or not. My own view is that if you can’t do that with good conscience it’s better not to be ordained.

                    D

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                  2. Lavinia’s avatar

                    Your stories are all very interesting. I’m convinced I have the calling and the message is becoming clearer,louder and stronger week by week. My issue is that I would not be take n seriously because I’ve only recently become involved with the Church and it would only be said that it’s just a ‘novelty’ or ‘honeymoon’ phase for me! Also, as some of you have said, ‘I’m getting on a bit’!!

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                    1. sanctified’s avatar

                      Hi Lavinia,

                      You need to speak to your parish priest! If you’re a regular attender at your church, they should listen to you. They may suggest that you do some study or wait a few months before they are happy to consider the next stage, but they should take you seriously and help you to discern exactly what it is God is saying.

                      Not everyone who feels called is necessarily called to ordained ministry, but if you don’t start that journey of discernment, you will never know!

                      D

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                    2. Brett Greenfield’s avatar

                      I have only recently discovered your web site and just wanted to tell you how truly inspiring your views and comments are and would like to thank you for taking the time for sharing them with all of us.
                      I have for some time wished to join the church,but have been put off following it up believing my age at a few weeks off turning forty would be an obstacle, but thanks to your site I am going to seek advice from my local vicar and see where it takes me.

                      Many thanks.

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                      1. sanctified’s avatar

                        Thanks for the kind words, I hope that your exploration of your call goes well!

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                      2. Ben Brady’s avatar

                        Hi .. I want to be a ordained minister but i am very worried about the selection process
                        I am not academically gifted but i thrive in Religous Studies and i have a calling which is
                        made clear .. what should i do ?..

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                        1. sanctified’s avatar

                          Hi Ben,

                          The Church of England is sadly still quite academically focussed, but the sense of call is the most important thing. At a selection conference, they are looking at your quality of mind – can you think well and make good arguments – rather than are you academically gifted. If God is calling you, speak to your vicar and start the process.

                          You say the calling is clear, which is good, but remember that the church will test that calling and they may not always agree with you!

                          D

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                        2. Darren Bramley’s avatar

                          Hi There.
                          I was very interested to read your posting and other people’s comments and questions. I am in a high pressure job in the TV industry which I enjoy, but which doesnt fulfil me as much as it used to.
                          However I am heavily involved with my local cathedral member of an active congregation and help run the Sunday Club, provide Technical backup, filming and to volunteer when time allows. I have a great relationship with all the clergy and our families regularly socialise. I have been on a trip to india with the cathedral to record our charitable causes there, and to try to encourage more fundraising.
                          What I am trying to ask is : Is it possible to study to become a member of the clergy, whilst continuing my current career? I feel a calling, but know that what I do I am good at, and that I can use the skills that I have in the life of the church. But I have this voice telling me to look further into priesthood, I love spending time in the life of the church and really feel my next step is to consider how I can change my life and use it for the benefit of others in Gods Name….Thanks for any Thoughts….

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                          1. sanctified’s avatar

                            Hi Darren,

                            In the Church of England there are a huge number of NSM (Non-Stipendary Ministers) also known as SSM (Self Supporting Ministers) or in some places MSE (Ministers in Secular Employment). Whatever they’re called, there are increasing numbers of clergy who are ordained but not paid by the church. If you feel the call, you need to talk to one of the ministers at the Cathedral as the first step! There is no harm at all in exploring!

                            D

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                          2. ben’s avatar

                            hi, i recently left the army,i’m 43 and served in several campaigns and gained much life experience over the years, i am a regular church goer and my faith has helped me through some fairly horrific times. i think i could offer a great deal if i was to become a vicar,i could train full time but would i get any kind of financial aid during my training?
                            ben

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                            1. sanctified’s avatar

                              Hi Ben,

                              In short the answer is yes, you would get some financial support. If you’re single it’s pretty minimal, if you’re married it’s more generous, but not a huge amount. You can also train part time if that suits you better. If you feel the call, get in touch with your local vicar and take the next step!

                              D

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                            2. John Robson’s avatar

                              Hello I dont really know where to begin I have read the questions and answers on the site and would like some advice. I have for a number of years had a desire to become a vicar but never known where to turn as I dont have Degrees or any relevent skills. I am now 51 but can honestly say the feeling I get when I enter a church or abbey etc ia a little hard to describe but its like a feeling of great peace which over whelms me, a real burning desire. I hope this does not sound rediculous to you but thats how I feel. I will be honest and say that I am not a regular church goer and this may make anyone feel I may not be worthy. I would love any advice you could give me. Thank you and God Bless.

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                              1. sanctified’s avatar

                                Hi John,

                                Thanks for commenting. The point about not being a regular churchgoer is an important one. As a clergy-person, I get 6 Sunday’s off a year which means I’m in church 46/52!. If you’re not a regular churchgoer, would you be able to commit to a vocation which requires such a level of commitment?

                                D

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                              2. IZ’s avatar

                                My nephew is in USA, has always been very active in his church, run youth groups and been on missions. He had a horrific car accident in his teens and died several times, which has left him with a very basic level of schooling etc. He’s done a degree in USA, but to become a priest over there he has to go to uni again for several years with a lot of latin to learn and a lot of money to find. Would he be able to come and train over here? And would it be cheaper for him? He is a truly religious person, who has really found himself through his struggles.

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                                1. sanctified’s avatar

                                  I really should check these comments more often, so sorry!

                                  It’s unlikely that your nephew could just move to the UK to train. There are a number of factors (not least the current immigration controls here). Even if those could be overcome, he would need to be a member of a local congregation for a period before starting on the whole process. So, sadly, this is probably not the option for him. I have to profess my ignorance of the workings of the Episcopal Church USA.

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                                2. Tom’s avatar

                                  Hi there, i’m 19 years old and am very confused with what road to go down. After leaving school at 16, i’ve worked full time from then (and i love my job). I’ve always found religion extremely interesting, i’d love to learn more. I wasn’t brought up a Christian as my mum & dad arn’t “religious”, and have never been to Church, as no-one i know is a Christian i think i’m too shy to attend on my own. As a child i had quite a lot of close family deaths & the vicar that helped me through it all was inspirational. I’d basically like to know where someone like me would stand with wanting to go down this road, acedemically i only have my GSCE’s, which was straight B’s throughout – including Religious Studies. I feel like there could be alot more to my life & im leaning towards this so much.
                                  Hope you can help!
                                  ~ Tom.

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                                  1. sanctified’s avatar

                                    Hi Tom,

                                    The first step is definitely to walk through the doors of a church! A good way to find some friendly people who will be nice to you and help you work out if Church is for you is to do an Alpha Course, they run in loads of churches all over the country and many have recently started or will start very soon. uk.alpha.org/find-a-course should help.

                                    Once you’ve made that move, who knows where it might take you!

                                    D

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                                  2. adele lunn’s avatar

                                    Tom i have very recently attended an alpha course and can honestly tell u it has changed my life! It was the best thing i have ever done. It gives u the opportunity to learn about God and practical things on how to pray and read the bible.
                                    I wish u the best of luck and hope as ur comments were posted some time ago that u have been able to find a course and have taken the first steps on a very exciting journey which will equip u on the road to having a more personal relationship with God

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                                  3. TINA VYZE’s avatar

                                    Having read you web page i was so glad to read that being old eg 47 ha ha is still ok to train for a profession but didnt realise it took so long i was heavely
                                    involed in my local church for ten years speaking in church ,prayers, sunday
                                    school one of my little flock is going in to ministry, house groups prayer groups, alpha course which i helped to run i have very strong views which has
                                    always stopped me being on the chuch committee as i didnt want to rock the
                                    boat. i also hugely with Gods blessing became a prayer minister and was blessed to watch Gods work at close quarters as the power of the holy spirit
                                    came over people, i have a strong desire to help people and a strong desired
                                    to lead and be centre stage and a huge caring empathy for all ages, but am i just wanting it for me can i put myself second yes but can i be diiplomatic im
                                    not so sure i tell it how it is. I dont go to church at the moment but talk to God
                                    every day is this proffession for me. help!

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                                    1. sanctified’s avatar

                                      Hi Tina,

                                      There are lots and lots of people who aren’t keen on church but are friends with Jesus. If you want to be a minister though, the only way in is through regularly attending church first. Obviously, I can only talk about the Church of England, but I would be surprised if that wasn’t the case in other denominations too!

                                      D

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                                    2. Marius’s avatar

                                      I have been working in non- demonational sitting for over 10 years now. My wife is member of CofE before we got married. I am incresingly feeling God calling me to train and become vicar. How can I go about it?

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                                      1. sanctified’s avatar

                                        Hi Marius,

                                        If you want to be a Church of England vicar, you need to become a member of a Church of England church first. The way the church works is that your calling/vocation is tested. The first test is to see whether your own vicar can see that this might be something God is calling you to. They can only do that if they know you and they will only know you if you regularly attend.

                                        D

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                                        1. Marius’s avatar

                                          Thanks again for your advise last october. I have joined Cof E and at the same time seeing the DDO and the whole experience is going very well.
                                          Blessings,
                                          Chris

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                                        2. Tanya’s avatar

                                          Hello, thanks for sharing your story.

                                          I have had a calling for a couple years now, but I still haven’t pursued it. My concern is, I’m a member of a non-denominational church which I’m involved in serving, and don’t want to leave. Would you suggest I still go through the discernment period before making a definite decision to leave my current church and to attend my local Church of England or is it possible to do both?

                                          Tanya

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                                          1. sanctified’s avatar

                                            Hi Tanya,

                                            I guess the first thing I would do is explore whether you can exercise that calling within the church you are in. Some non-denominational churches are very small (in terms of scope for doing that), so that’s not always possible.

                                            The whole process of discernment and living out your calling involves numerous moments of taking up your cross and making sacrifices to do what God has called you to do. Perhaps, if this is real, the first step is one of faith to leave where you are now and go to a Church of England church. That might end well, it might not, but it’s hard to prove a sense of calling to the Church of England if you aren’t a worshipper there.

                                            Just having to make that choice might help you to decide whether this is the right path to be exploring…

                                            D

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                                          2. Caroline’s avatar

                                            Thank you for your openness and advice through all the comments. I started exploring my call 4 years ago and starte don the discernment process 18 months ago, I am due to go before the local panel in November. My faith has definately deepened whilst being on this journey and my prayer life has become more disciplined.
                                            The process does take some time but I know that it will be worth while, however I am a single parent and have a worry in the back of my mind about how I can go away to residential college (I am currently working on a very low wage) and leave my 8 year old son with my daughter (she has a child of her own) I am not worried about leaving him as feel he will be in excellant hands and the option of him coming with me would not be suitable for him. My concern is about the financial side (I currently recieve tax credits to subsidise my low income). I still have to support my son and pay for what he needs, how can i find out what financial assiatnce I can get. I don’t want to feel that money issues will be a problem and prevent things. I know God will provide and have full trust in him but my maternal instinct is strong and this nagging fear is still there. I have prayed about it and continue to do so.
                                            Any help and advice you can give would be greatfully recieved.
                                            God bless you for teh time you take in answering people’s questions on the journey of discernment and vocation.

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                                            1. sanctified’s avatar

                                              Hi Caroline,

                                              Financial help is available to ordinands with families. It’s not loads but it should be enough. Alternatively, there may be options for studying part-time locally. Your DDO should be able to work through that with you, and it won’t reflect at all badly on you if you ask about it.

                                              There is information available on the Church of England website, if you google “support for candidates in training church of england” you’ll find it. You need to look at “Support for married candidates” which includes stuff about lone parents.

                                              I hope it works out and that your panel goes well in November!

                                              D

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                                            2. Lloyd’s avatar

                                              Thank you for your guide to becoming a Vicar. I’ve been interested in being a Vicar for several years and have tried talking to a couple of people I know that are Vicars or a Canon but none of these have been able to give me such a clear and concise insight as your comprehensive account. If I go ahead I would be interested in becoming an Army Chaplain. Although much older than the 13 year old boy that has always wanted to be an Army Officer I can identify with his desire to be one, as I had the same thoughts for years when I was much younger. However, the one essential question remaining for me is how do I determine whether God is calling me to be ordained in the first place or is that the same as my conscience telling me that I would be suited to this vocation?

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                                              1. sanctified’s avatar

                                                Hi Lloyd,

                                                This is indeed the big question. Sadly, most people don’t have a dream in which God says “Do this!”, or hear an audible voice or anything else like that.

                                                So, some things to think about…
                                                * Do you have a persistent sense that this might be the right thing to do?
                                                * Has anyone ever said “You’d make a great Vicar” (They’re not always right, but it helps if other people see it in you).
                                                * Similar to the previous one, but have you told anyone you know well and how did they respond. (“You want to what!” is probably not as good a response as “Well everyone else has known that for years”).
                                                * What appeals to you about the job?

                                                And all that is on top of the basic thing of are you saying your prayers and reading the bible and are you regularly attending church!

                                                I hope that helps at least a little bit.

                                                D

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                                                1. Lloyd’s avatar

                                                  Thank you for your reply on the 6th October, which I found very helpful.

                                                  Whilst I’ve thought for some years that this might be the right thing to do, no-one has actually said I’d make a great Vicar.

                                                  However, I’ve told a couple of people close to me about my thoughts that I’m attracted to being a Vicar and interestingly, whilst both of them were surprised and even found the idea a little funny, one of them has since said that they could see me visiting people and having the patience to deal with various people.

                                                  One of the main appeals of the job is the feeling I imagine I’d have that I’m helping others and making a contribution to the community I’d serve. If I could extend this to becoming a military Chaplain then I feel that would suit me even better.

                                                  However, one of my concerns is having to study and know all about Saints etc. This brings me to your last statement about saying my prayers, reading the bible and attending church regularly, since I do not do any of these. Although I do say a few prayers but that’s usually as a result of some form of exasperation or trying to understand aspects of life.

                                                  Perhaps I am after all barking up the wrong tree or maybe you would urge me to attend Church, for at least that may make my mind up.

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                                                2. Brian’s avatar

                                                  Hello everybody, my name is Brian and i find this website absolutely fascinating, i myself have had what i can only describe as a life changing experience. I believe i have had the calling of god, although i didn’t realise it until recently. I have worked for the last 30 years as a dj entertaining the masses and have worked with quite a few ‘A’ list celebrity’s along the way. Because of my job I find it very easy to talk to people and have the ability to make people warm to me without really trying. Someone once said to my mother, ‘when Brian walks into a room the whole world takes notice because he shines, he has a presence about him which attracts people’. Many people have also said this to me over the years and a few also said to me that i’d make a great vicar ( I thought to myself who are you kidding) because of the warmth that eminates from me when i’m talking to people. Don’t get me wrong i’m not trying to imply anything here, these are other peoples words not mine. But surely these are skills that could be put to good use within the church, for a vicar must be approachable and easy to talk to. If you’d have told me a year ago i’d be writing this letter i’d have called you mad, I still don’t really understand what’s happening to me but something inside keeps pushing me, day and night it never stops. It’s a feeling i’ve never felt before and it’s actually so strong it scares me, it makes me feel sick at times and for some reason I feel totally content as though i’m bullet proof, nothing can hurt me. Does any of this make any sense to you, i’ve never been what you would call a regular church go’er because of one reason or another but i do believe in god, I do pray and god still hears me even though i’m not in church, but I now think he has plans for me which are beyond my control, please help me understand, many thanks Brian.

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                                                3. Richard’s avatar

                                                  Hi,

                                                  I’ve just been reading your very interesting and informative website.

                                                  I have been seriously interested in becoming a Church of England minister since I was a student. My local vicar told me to go into business and come back when I had some practical experience of life. I’m now 61 but it looks as though I might have missed the bus. I have not earned megabucks but have had a fulfilling career working with people and their problems and would now like to spend the next 20 years as an ordained minister in the Church. I am a committed Christian and practising Anglican. Am I wasting my time?

                                                  Richard

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                                                4. lisa’s avatar

                                                  hi, i go to the church of england for every service and ive just been elected to be a member of the dcc and also deanary synod rep, i would love to be a vicar, i have never thought a me to do tbout it before but know i think gods calling me to do it, but i dont know where to start, any help would be much appreciated

                                                  regards lisa

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                                                5. lisa’s avatar

                                                  sorry i forgot to mention im 25 yrs old nearly 26

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                                                6. Ben’s avatar

                                                  I want to become a vicar and wonder if it is worth going to university and doing an undergraduate degree in theology or divinity before starting the process. If so, should I do a degree in Theology or Divinity?
                                                  Many thanks,
                                                  Ben.

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                                                7. Gemma’s avatar

                                                  I’ve read through all the text although I still don’t understand what a priest actually does? Please can someone help, thanks

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                                                8. Kate’s avatar

                                                  Hi

                                                  I am getting married in March 2014 in our village Chapel. Do we need to have a sanctified vicar to conduct the marriage ceremony or can any of the preachers who take services in the Chapel do this?

                                                  No one seems to be able to answer this for me…… I know we need to have a register present which has been arranged but our local vicar is retiring in December and is not being replaced. We have lots of regular preachers that come to take the weekly services but they do not hold a ‘license’

                                                  Many thanks

                                                  Kate

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                                                  1. sanctified’s avatar

                                                    Hi Kate,

                                                    Sorry for the delay in getting back to you.

                                                    If you’re getting married in a Church of England church (and it sounds like you’re not), you will need an ordained person to take the service and the church will arrange that.

                                                    Otherwise the Registrar will deal with the legal parts of the ceremony and who is allowed to do the other parts of the service will be dependent on the rules of that denomination.

                                                    I guess that isn’t mega-helpful, but I know the Church of England well and am far from an expert on everything else.

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                                                  2. Andrew Guest’s avatar

                                                    Good Afternoon,
                                                    im currently church warden at my local church and would like to be become a priest i dont have a degree but have alot of life experience (43) and feel i have a great deal to offer the church of england,is it really as long as 8 years is there not a quicker route then this.

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                                                  3. james Taylor-short’s avatar

                                                    Hi,
                                                    Im an optician…(but am a secret wanna be Vicar!) I have spoken to our local Vicar about what I think is a calling, and he agrees, long story , not enough pace to tell it here..
                                                    Thanks for your web page, I would like to ask you something.
                                                    I have my own practices in Devon. Am I able to train whilst still holding down a my current job? As I own the business, its hard for me to just “give up the job’ I would need to find a buyer, provide for my family, pay the mortgage and so on I am worried that I won’t be able to if I give up working. I have a young family that demands attention and money!! I am at a bit of a vocational cross roads!!

                                                    Any thoughts,
                                                    James

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                                                  4. clint goodall’s avatar

                                                    hi I’m a disabled ex British soldier who has seen and done far to much for most men to handle, but I feel a calling to do something in the church but not sure what? and I’m not sure the church would ever take me as I have P.T.S.D. people all ways said that I would be a vicar if I had not gone in the army, because off my interest off the church. thank you for reading this Clint

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                                                  5. gladys taylor’s avatar

                                                    very great advice as i am on my way seeking to fulfill my calling though am a sigle parent with a chronic pain disability. My vicar is moving in feb 2014 n am abit upset as i was hoping she can help but she is very busy and at the same time taking another serious post at St. Pauls Cathedral any help welcome

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                                                  6. John’s avatar

                                                    Thank you for your website! I have been trying to make sense of what I feel may be the second time I have been called to God.

                                                    Earlier this year I woke up one morning with a feeling (although that doesn’t do it justice….I simply cannot put into words exactly how I felt) that I should join the church and possibly train as a vicar.
                                                    However, equally I also felt that people like me (essentially working class Londoner) don’t become vicars!
                                                    I had recently started a new local rugby club and instead of following my heart, I put those feelings aside and threw myself into setting up (and playing for) the rugby club.

                                                    Fast forward to a few weeks ago and this time I was awoken in the middle of the night with a much stronger feeling that I should investigate and commit myself to finding out more about becoming a vicar. After realising that this burning feeling from within wasn’t just a case of heartburn, I decided to look online at what the process was and more specifically whether somebody like me would even be considered to join the Church of England as a Priest.

                                                    Now, to confuse things further I also felt like I was being drawn away from the church my family and I have been worshipping at for the last 10 years and move to another. This was a huge decision as not only have my two children (8 & 6) been born and raised within that church, but I too was baptised and confirmed whilst there (although I was actually confirmed in another parish). I was also on the PCC there too.
                                                    I can only describe this change of churches by comparing it to splitting up with your first love, but meeting your wife! Things have simply clicked and I feel refreshed and more focused than ever.

                                                    The complication now arises in so much that the new church is currently between incumbents and therefore I am unsure how to begin my journey towards joining the church.

                                                    Apologies for the length of the message and of the ‘ARRRRRGH!’ nature of it’s contents, but right now I felt that I had to try to put this all into words!

                                                    Thank you in advance.

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                                                  7. Olu’s avatar

                                                    My husband and I have been missionary couple to England for the past five years. Recently, my husband have been seeing DDO and by God’s willing will be going to BAP later this year. As I/we think the future of his and our ministry, I really think I should be going for chaplaincy in either school or hospital especially mental hospital. What advice should you be giving me

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                                                  8. nick’s avatar

                                                    hi, have had a burning desire all my adult life to become a man of god, just reading from this site has really made my mind up that this is the path for me.
                                                    I just need help to make my dream a reality

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                                                  9. Claudette’s avatar

                                                    Hello Vicar and thank you very much for all of the information and encouragement that you provide on this site.
                                                    I have for many years felt a strong desire to become a Vicar for a multitude of reasons. The thoughts and feelings are becoming more and more promiment now and I would like to actually take the steps towards realising this goal.
                                                    My problem is that I am not a member of the Anglican Church. I have been raised in the Catholic faith and also in the Assyrian Church of the East. For a woman to become an ordained priest in either of these denominations is not possible.
                                                    Would you please tell me if there is any possibility for me to still be considered for training and ordination in the Anglican Church, and also how to approach this.
                                                    Thank you

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                                                  10. kelly’s avatar

                                                    I would so much to become a vicar, I’ve only been following the lord for two and a half years, but I feel this is for me.
                                                    I’m almost 30, the trouble is Im a single parent to six children, obviously I had them before I found the lord. Can I still become a vicar?.

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                                                    1. sanctified’s avatar

                                                      Hi Laila, sorry for being rubbish at replying!
                                                      Having lots of children could make training more of a challenge, but being a single parent isn’t a bar to ordained ministry. Your first step is to speak to your Vicar about how you feel and ask for their advice and guidance.

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                                                    2. Jimmy’s avatar

                                                      Hi great website, very interesting. For the past 3 years I have been considering leaving my job to become a vicar. Problem is, I earn £50-60K at the moment, and this equates to take home of just shy of £3K per month one it’s all taxed and pensioned etc. I have a wife who doesn’t work and 3 kids under ten, so as you can imagine the pressure on me as breadwinner is considerable. Added to the financial side of things, would the kids have to move schools if I were subsequently ‘posted’ somewhere? What sort of take home pay does a ‘qualified’ vicar get, and does it really take up to 8 years to get qualified? Thanks in anticipation.

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                                                      1. sanctified’s avatar

                                                        Yep, being a full time minister isn’t that well paid. The current Stipend in the Diocese I serve in is £24k, so one and a bit after tax, NI etc. On the other hand, I live in a free house. I don’t have much truck with those who say clergy are underpaid.

                                                        I’m married and have two kids under 5, we do ok!

                                                        Your children would almost certainly end up moving school though. There are challenges and sacrifices involved in being a clergy person, which is why it’s hugely important that you really really feel called to it.

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                                                      2. james kean’s avatar

                                                        Would really like to know how to get into the priesthood been a dream of mine for a long time please email with help or any other details

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                                                      3. Richard Peters’s avatar

                                                        I have spent my life being an evil person I find its time now to pay something back and make my lufe whole again . Im 47 yrs old no and would like somw advice as to joining the ranks as a reverand and help teach those the error of my ways and make some good for the things I have done

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                                                      4. Matthew’s avatar

                                                        Hi I am 15 and I have a real passion for sharing the Gospel of Jesus Christ and would love to enter the ordained ministry. I understand I’m still a bit young but this has been on my mind for the past year. I am a member of the Church of Ireland, in Northern Ireland and I see that this website is more for Church of England folk. Lots of people have been saying that I have a good pastoral, caring personality. I would just like to hear your views and opinion – thanks for your time.
                                                        ps – Great website!

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                                                      5. marie ford’s avatar

                                                        Hi iam 34 a single mother
                                                        I have been having this feeling like I have never felt befor since I got confirmed last year. I kept fighting it see I have no gcse or anythink. I kept saying iam not worthy enough to be a priest. Iam the sacristan at my church.I have spoken to a few people at my church about the way I feel and they all agree they think I will good as a priest and to follow my heart. I dream about it and when I pray it allways feels like someone is telling me to follow my heart I don’t know what to do can you please give me some advice.

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                                                      6. Mike Talbot’s avatar

                                                        I am 62 years of age, would I be too old to become a clergy

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                                                      7. Jen’s avatar

                                                        Thank you, came across your website, while looking up how to be a curate or reader. The Bishop came to our church last year, we were having a general conversation, not much god talk, he said “ever thought about becoming a curate” my anwser was “I think I would be to outspoken”, “just what we need”, he said. I have been a christian all my life and I am very involved in my church. I see myself as a simple believer, a doing christian. Never had god speak to me, but I have had moments, feelings when something or one is trying to get through, my heart feels full. Since this brief conversation with the bishop, these feelings have increased, hence the google. What do I do next?

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                                                      8. Abayomi’s avatar

                                                        Hi Rev,
                                                        Great reading all of your very useful lines.
                                                        I came across this while searching the internet on how I may train as a minister in the Anglican communion here in the UK but I must confess I have a bit of a mixed background.
                                                        1, I am 48 in a week’s time – 16 Feb 2015
                                                        2, I was born into an Anglican family in Nigeria and attended the Anglican church in Nigeria into my teens
                                                        3, I joined the Pentecostal brand of Christianity in my undergraduate days in the University and have attended a mix of pentecostal and Anglican churches since.
                                                        4, For education, I have studied up to the doctoral level and I taught History and Diplomacy in a handful of universities over the last 25 years.
                                                        5, At the moment, I am into writing, internet TV and documentary production and I have resided here in the UK for the last 12 plus years.
                                                        I do not have an Anglican parish I attend very regularly and imagine the usual route you have so clearly outlined of going though an ODD may not be feasible for me (Having said that, I can still walk up to the local Anglican vicar who lives 3 minutes away if I have to)
                                                        The summary of my question after all the contextualizing comment is; Is there an Anglican Theological School here in the UK (preferably in the South East as I live in the Greater London area) able to train someone like me?
                                                        Will such school welcome a practical ‘self-referring’ candidate?
                                                        Thank you,
                                                        Aba

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                                                      9. Ardis A Fgerholm’s avatar

                                                        I have a question. I have always been “searching” as it were. And 2001, I got “born again”. I beginning reading the bible, praying, going to church.. Apart from music,( I am a singer/Songwriter) I seem to have no other “pullings” to anything else but the Church. Lately, I have been attending the Church of England, St. Mary Abbots Parish Church , Kensington London: I was passing by one day and the priests were on the streets asking passerbys’ if they wanted to be “Ashed with a cross on the forehead”..that’s how I ended up going in the church. And I’ve been going regularly ever since.
                                                        “Suddenly, I am thinking that I might be called to be a priest”. Of course I bursted out laughing. It cannot be! Then I thought..No I’m too old,, I am now 43 years old.
                                                        Is there anyone I can speak to on these matters?

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                                                      10. K’s avatar

                                                        How closely do the Church review their candidates as I have just come out of an abusive marriage but his Church believe I have issues with the Church. As that’s what he has told them, I would never receive the holy sacrament from my abuser and have found strength from my faith. He has been on longterm sick for 6 years suffering severe depression in his handwriting but the Church weren’t told that. He even enlisted in the armed forces attending reservist training when on sickleave. Until he went on another 3 1/2 year sickleave. Using this time not to support the family but to sit at home poring over the computer learning Gods words in his office upstairs, neglecting our two year old daughter leaving her downstairs alone with a tv for company. He even has the church paying for his degree. Luckily my Parish priests tells me to have patience his lies will be seen. All he wants is the easy life and is sitting waiting for his £22k payout for his Church provided home, whilst I have to sell our family home that I have worked hard to keep over his head. Its strange but none of his Church associates have been invited into our home no doubt they all believe that was my fault. That’s strange as I worked full time and he was the one sat at home all the time, and my family we never welcomed by him. Domestic abuse is just ignored by the church and bullys are allowed to continue bullying.

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                                                      11. helen’s avatar

                                                        Hi, I have been a nurse for 27yrs and things have completely changed in the last few months in my work. I had not thought of retraining for something new although I have started thinking about the church, I dont know why. I do attend church and have always had a faith but I’m not sure if this is a calling or not.
                                                        Can you give me some words of advise

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                                                      12. Chris Hill’s avatar

                                                        Don’t quite know where to start sorry. A few weeks ago I was feeling very low, to the point of feeling suicidal but almost as soon as I thought this was the way out. I felt a much stronger feelng. Almost a voice saying ‘no I’ve got other plans for you’ I have always been religious but haven’t been to church other than hatchings, matches or dispatches for years. I was instantaneously lifted out of my depression and intrigued could this be the start of a calling? I would love some advice and guidance on how to find what God has planned for me. Thank you.

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                                                      13. allan bellingham’s avatar

                                                        Hi would like be vicar I have been to church since I was young and I hold Aaronic priest hood have authority administer outwards ordinances of sacrament and baptism . I am I awaiting for to get the Melchizedek priest hood and that will gave me power and authority to lead the church and direct the preachings of the gospel and do healing a round the world and over each woard,s and stakes

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                                                      14. colin’s avatar

                                                        Hi
                                                        Im 54 and wondered is that considered too old to apply to become a Vicar

                                                        Thanks

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                                                      15. Naomi’s avatar

                                                        Hi, I have felt a strong calling to God now for about 20 years but recently its become really persistent, however, I am a single mother to an under 5, I have only gcses at not spectacular grades and I am nudging 40.

                                                        I would like to speak to my vicar about this but I see that he is always horrendously busy. Also I have only been with my present church 2 months (I felt a strong pull to this one from my previous non denominational christian church).

                                                        I am not sure if my new vicar will take my seriously and this is what worries me. I have discussed this with a couple of close friends and they feel that I would be suited to the life.

                                                        I would appreciate your thoughts on this, Thank you.

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                                                      16. Dean Bennett’s avatar

                                                        I would like to become a vicar but i’m 50 and feel that this is to old. Does my age stop me from becoming a vicar as there is a shortage and I would like to be considered. My point is was Jesus choosing disciples for there age, or that they were the right people to be disciples.

                                                        Thank you for reading my message.
                                                        Dean.

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                                                      17. Steve Haworth’s avatar

                                                        I am fifty six with lots of life skills with in the Church of England is there a way I can put all my experienced into becoming a Vicar I have been through the process before but the higher powers in the cathedral say that you need to have degrees but I have been around so called people who have no people skills what can I do

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                                                      18. Coral’s avatar

                                                        Hi, I have a friend who is planning to study theology at degree (once they have took a degree in philosophy, religion and ethics) and hopes to become a vicar. She is female and is worried that this won’t happen because of her sex. Are women allowed to become vicars? Thanks Coral

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                                                      19. Elizabeth Lamont’s avatar

                                                        I have lived in France for many years. I am now 67 years old and I feel called to work for God in my daily life. I would love to train to become a vicar. So difficult question: is this possible? France being my home? because of my age? and I only have a small pension so I would need assistance to accomplish this enormous feit at a distance: i.e. accommodation if it is to be done in England etc. I know nothing is impossible for God but this is a really difficult one I know…
                                                        Look forward to a reply with suggestions if possible…
                                                        Elizabeth

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                                                      20. Luke edwards’s avatar

                                                        Hi my name is Luke I’m 29 how do I go about joining priesthood or a vicar if I have no degrees can I still do it if I can cause its always been my dream after my uncle

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                                                      21. Neil Hemsley’s avatar

                                                        I’m 45 ..have served in the forces / Army
                                                        Is it to late to take this path. .say it’s a calling..it’s something I feel..
                                                        I lost my mam to cancer in April my dad years past to heart attack.
                                                        I pray for my family and self but feel as I should be doing this full time now… such a strange feeling ?
                                                        Any feedback or a chat would be grateful
                                                        Neil

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